Use this scenario when timelines slip repeatedly. Start with specifics: “Three deadlines were missed this month.” Name impact: “Our client extended testing and lost confidence.” Invite context with genuine curiosity. Then negotiate a realistic plan, including buffers and check‑ins. Rehearse alternative openings, especially when you feel frustrated. Practice staying anchored to behavior and impact rather than inferring intent. End with a short agreement in writing, ensuring both parties can uphold commitments without hidden surprises undermining progress.
High performers sometimes react defensively because identity and standards are tightly linked. Roleplay acknowledging excellence while addressing the pattern: “Your output is outstanding, and interrupting peers shuts down ideas we need.” Practice pausing after the key line to let it land. Prepare responses to common deflections. Offer a path back to influence: partnering on meeting norms, modeling curiosity, and celebrating quieter voices. The aim is preserving excellence while expanding capacity for collaboration, humility, and shared learning.
Speaking candidly to a manager requires courage and precision. Rehearse permission‑based openers: “May I offer an observation that could improve our stakeholder meetings?” Focus on observable behaviors, tie to outcomes the manager cares about, and suggest a testable tweak. Anticipate power dynamics by scripting a calm response if the conversation turns sharp. The practice builds respectful backbone, helping you contribute strategically without grandstanding, and modeling a culture where clear, kind candor flows in every direction consistently.
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